Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Are You Kidding Me?

Everyone has their "thing" that they say when they are happy, sad, angry, excited, etc. Some say OMG , others say WT...?, I think that one is funny, any who, my "thing" is Are you kidding me? I might add 'with this' or 'right now' at the end but basically you get my point so far. 

I say this to everyone, all the time no matter what the circumstance.  I'm choosing to share this with you guys because of my last thoughtsicle.  I'm on the phone with an acquaintance and she invites my boyfriend and I to her Thanksgiving party.  After I explain to her my reasons for not being able to come, she quickly interjects with “So how long have you two been together anyway?”  So nosey.  I tell her because oh gosh she can be a real and her reaction was an Are you kidding me? moment. 

She asks “Oh wow, five years, so how’s the sex?”

Are you kidding me with this?

1.       What makes you think you can ask me that question?

  1. What makes you think I’m sexually active?
  2. Are you kidding me with this?


So after I let her have it, two minutes straight, I decided to ask her why she would assume we are having sex.  The obvious answer… no one can be in a relationship for five years without having sex.  Glad to say that I am living proof that a healthy fear of HIM and respect for myself has kept me out of that boat. Yay me!!!

This got me thinking, does everyone think I’m sexually active when I tell them how long I’ve been in a relationship? Yikes, that’s so not a good look for me.

How about you guys, do you automatically think couples are doing the deed when you hear about the length of time they have invested in their relationship?

SIDE NOTE: And if they aren’t doing the deed together, do you think they are getting their fix somewhere else, HEHE, trifling question I know.


Until next time,

Meandering Memorandum 


Just_Wondering said...

I thnk that in this day in age 5 years people will definately assume people are having sex. Lets be real now people are having sex before they find out each others last name. So if you're not very religious and I mean the real deal of being a God fearing man or woman...you'd better believe that 5 years would equal a sex life that you must be very happy with lol

And yes if you're not on the same page in terms of sex then homeboy or homegirl may be htting the sheet with someone else!

Awesome Post and I think it's great that you're waiting!

Mrs.Young_fashion said...

Thanks J_W, I appreciate it.

T said...

Wow, 1) I can't believe she asked you that and 2) I can't believe you have abstained for five years within a relationship. If you can do that, you can do anything. I'll be looking out for Mrs.Young_Fashion to be the first woman President. No, seriously. You go girl!

T said...

Oh wow, I forgot to answer the question. Yes, I assume everyone in a relationship [unless they are the Pastor and his fiance] are getting busy.

Mrs.Young_fashion said...

LOL @ pastor and wife/President...i'm not superwoman

Therapeutic Musings said...

Oh I so feel you on this post! Everybody assumed my husband and I were having sex before we got married. My momma was calling me a liar and my friends kept saying no dude would wait. Oh yes the heck he will. God aint no joke, we decided we didn't want to wait to have sex so we did the deed and guess what? My entire body broke out into hives! You better believe I got myself together and we didn't do that no more, lol.

Mrs.Young_fashion said...

so you took it as a warning and did the right thing for the two of you